It's hard to believe but as of this Saturday, Nov. 12th, it will be exactly one month since I returned to the Island from my lockout hiatus.
In total, I was away for six weeks, and when I returned I was surprised to see how little had changed since I had left. I'd run into people I knew and ask them "what's new?". Most just said "oh, you know, the usual", which translated meant nothing at all.
It's funny because in the three times I've been back to the city since I've been on the Island, I've always remarked how quickly things seem to change. A new condo here, a new restaurant there. If you blink, you might miss something. My friends would sometimes mock me when I pointed these out, telling me I was acting as if I'd gone away for years and years.
But upon my return to the Island, and seeing the glacial pace at which life here moves, I realized that I was in fact right. I also understood that the same slow pace of life that attracts so many people here is the same reason why, at this point in my life, I couldn't see myself settling down here.
I feel sometimes as if I'm on a different track than people here. Like I'm in the fast lane doing 20 over the speed limit, and everyone else is an old lady who can barely see over the dash doing 20 below. In fact, that analogy is the actual reality most of the time I'm driving here!
But while the things around me haven't changed all that much, I know that I myself have changed. Not just since I've returned, but in the last 10 months that I've been here.
I noticed it one afternoon. I was chatting with a friend and telling her about the blog I started when I first got here. After sending her the link I started re-reading some of the entries I had written. A few things jumped out at me as I read them.
First off, I remembered what a great writer I am :)
But seriously though, I heard in my voice unease, discomfort, a sense of loneliness. That's a good thing of course because it meant my words communicated all those things I felt when I first arrived.
Reading those entries now, I realized that I don't feel that way about this place anymore. Sure I still feel homesick and have the occasional bout of loneliness. But I've achieved a comfort level here that has replaced all of that.
With that new revelation in mind, I attended a news conference later that same day which further drove home the point. It was the usual government photo-op with politicians and businesspeople. But this time, instead of walking into a crowd of strangers, I walked into a crowd of friends, associates, and acquaintances (no conflicts of interest of course).
People said hi, like they always do. But it wasn't just the usual polite hello to the local news guy. Sure there were a few of those. But there were plenty more, "Heard you kicked ass at the curling club this week", and "Good to see you Saturday night", or "good to see you recovered from Friday night!".
Work-wise I think I've settled in well and things are going nicely. But it was always the after-work part of my life here that I had struggled with. Partly it was of my own doing. I had the opportunity to make friends, but many times I wouldn't pursue it. Now I'm cultivating friendships. I've got places to go, people to see and it's keeping me quite busy.
Part of my busy social agenda has been spent hosting local events. It actually started a couple months after I arrived. I was the MC for a local youth agency's event. Someone at the theatre saw how I did and recommended me for another event. Then a band that played at my first event asked me to host their CD release party.
Luckily the lockout ended when it did, because it allowed me to return in time to host my biggest event to date. I was the MC for a couple of showcases at Contact East. It's a music conference where industry types gather to see the latest talent. It was a blast, especially because it was more like an event I'd see in Toronto than here on the Island.
The snowball effect continued because, since that gig, I've been asked to host a couple more events and people around town are now thinking of me when they're planning an event. It's great because it gives me a chance to show my personality and practice performing in front of a live, large crowd. It also enhances my profile in the community. It makes me a part of the community, not just some guy from away who people see on TV.
I've gotten quite a number of compliments on my work and the fact that people continue to ask me to host events is a sure sign that I'm doing something right. It's quite a change from when I first arrived and no one here knew who I was.
As I take the time to reflect on my life here on the Island so far I can see that a lot has changed.
Of course, as the old saying goes, the only thing constant in life is change.
But I wonder now. If my level of comfort here is constant, does it mean it's time for a change?